Are you a people pleaser? Yeah, me too. This episode is all about people pleasing. At the root, people pleasing is trying to manipulate other people's emotions. It is trying to make them happy. But we can't MAKE anyone feel anything, especially at our own expense. The alternative? Find a loving reason. Don't do things out of obligation. Change your thoughts to love. Instead of being the angry, resentful victim, try finding a reason you want to serve. Stop pleasing and start loving.
We live in two spaces, our homes and our minds. Both of these need an occasional decluttering. We accumulate extra stuff that is no longer beneficial. We recycle old thoughts and shove things into nooks and crannies that are not helpful. Cleaning out our closets and cleaning out our thoughts frees up space for us to become who we truly want to be. This episode helps us become free of clutter by examining our homes and minds. Look at where you are living, both literately and figuratively. Is that space contributing to your overwhelm and indecision? Clearing clutter from your life will increase your happiness.
Did you know that only 1% of people actually set goals and follow through with them? These people are consistently more successful and report higher levels of happiness. This episode gives three tips on how to set goals that will help you feel successful, rather than feeling overwhelmed and defeated. Goal setting doesn't have to be scary. It is a way to take charge of your life and seek joy. Follow these tips to ensure that your goal setting experience is fun, successful and joyful. Be sure to visit the website to get your FREE printable. This will help you with your goal setting and joy seeking! www.thejoyfulsoulproject.com
Have you ever made a commitment and felt so determined to follow through with your goal only to find a short time later you are lacking motivation and wondering why you even started in the first place? Today on the podcast we are talking about following through. Why is it important to follow through and how do we do it? As you start thinking about the New Year and all of the great and exciting things you would like to accomplish, be sure to listen to this episode. Whether you are setting goals, making New Years resolutions or simply just wanting to make a few modifications to your routine, listen and learn more about following through.
Christmas really is most wonderful time of the year. However, it can also be the most overwhelming! There are so many parties, programs, treats to make, presents to wrap and people to visit. It seems our to-do list grows at the same rate as the Grinch's heart. ❤ What if I told you that overwhelm is optional? You don't HAVE to feel it if you don't want to. Overwhelm is an emotion and all emotions are created by our thoughts. Our thoughts are ALWAYS optional. You are not feeling overwhelmed because of your circumstance, only your thoughts about it. Good news my friends. You are creating it, you can change it. Listen to this episode to learn how.
We are all running our own race. There are times when it is challenging and we feel that we cannot go on. We may even cry out and question why this is happening. In this week's episode Heidi has a guest, her dear friend Candie Madsen. Candie ran a literal race were she learned a valuable life lesson. It is suppose to hurt. It is going to be uncomfortable and you are going to be okay. Just keep going. Heavenly Father may not remove the discomfort. He might not make everything easy, but he is there with you every step of the way.
We all encounter people that are harder to get along with than others. They might do and say things that we don't like but here is the secret, the problem is not the other person. The problem is only in our thoughts. In this episode, Heidi discusses how we can use our thoughts to deal with difficult people. The best part is, you don't even have to change anyone else. This is great episode to help bring more peace and harmony into your life. Are you struggling with a family member or co-worker? Listen to his episode for some practical steps to managing your brain.
No experience in life is ever wasted....as long as we learn from it. Today, in Taffy’s last time recording for The Joyful Soul Project podcast, she talks about the lessons she has learned in the past couple years while sharing with all of you. From being intentional with her time to being willing to do B-work, Taffy shares lessons that we can all use in life, whether we are chasing big dreams or putting dreams on hold to be a mom.
Just in time for the holidays, listen as Taffy interviews Stephanie Webb, founder of Nutrition Redefined, about all things FOOD. Stephanie is an eating psychology coach with an amazing tool bag that she uses to help women make peace with food and “take the guilt and stress out of healthy living.” For more from Stephanie, follow her on Instagram @nutrition.redefined and visit her website, www.nutritionredefined.co
Who do you want to become? What if you could start becoming that person right now? Today on the podcast, Heidi interviews Kristin Brown from The Progress Project. Kristin has designed a thought provoking and action based exercise that helps each of us think about who we want to be and how we are going to get there. During the interview, Kristin discusses how she has used this tool to benefit her own life and how each of us can do the same. Deciding who you want to become is powerful. It can help guide your life as you navigate challenges, triumphs, heartbreak and joy. Making these intentional choices and then living by them can bring so much happiness and clarity into our lives. Kristin makes the process so easy with her free printable. Be sure to get yours! https://www.jointheprogressproject.com/futureself You can find more from Kristin on her website: www.jointheprogressproject.com Her podcast: The Progress Project And on Instagram: kristinbrown and jointheprogressproject
How's your relationship with food? Would you like it to be better? Do you believe that a healthier relationship with food would help you eat "better"? Listen as Taffy talks about her relationship with food--the ups and the downs--and what she has learned. Listen as she shares the key questions she asks herself when deciding what, when, and how much to eat. To download your FREE Guide to Joyful Eating, go to www.thejoyfulsoulproject.com.
This week on the podcast Heidi addresses one of the biggest obstacles to managing our thoughts: understanding that circumstances are neutral. Our brains want to reject this idea because it is easier to believe that things happen and there is nothing we can do about it, but that is not true. While we cannot always control our circumstances, we can control what we make them mean and this is the greatest news of all. Circumstances are facts. They are not positive or negative. It is our thoughts about the circumstances that give them meaning. Our thoughts are always optional. Therefore, we can choose to feel however we want about any circumstance. This knowledge gives us power over our lives and puts us in the drivers seat. We can choose when we want to feel negative emotions and when we would rather experience the more positive emotions. There are times when negative emotions are necessary and appropriate and we will definitely want to experience those feelings, but we always have another option available when we are ready. You are in control of your own life and that starts by understanding that circumstances are neutral.
Fitness and Goals with Amber Brueseke If you want to make exercise a consistent and enjoyable part of your life, take 30 minutes to listen to this interview. Amber is a personal trainer and online fitness coach who helps women become more empowered through healthy living and chasing goals. She also models HOW to do this as she has taken her passion of weight lifting and used it improve not just her physical strength, but her life! Taffy and Amber discuss how having goals and approaching them from a place of love and gratitude can help improve both your fitness and your confidence. For more from Amber, check out her Instagram account @biceps.after.babies and listen to her podcast, Biceps After Babies radio.
The scriptures teach us that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass. This concept applies to living the gospel of Jesus Christ but also as we strive to manage our minds and seek joy. Living a joyful life does not require a huge, dramatic shift in our life but rather great changes are made through small, simple and intentional changes. Just because something is simple does not mean that it is not incredibly effective. It is easier to want the quick and easy fix; the big elaborate change that will solve all of our problems, but that is not the way our brain works. Heavenly Father has provided a pattern for us to follow for spiritual growth and we can apply that same pattern to joyful growth. Making the small and simple changes in our life is the way. Out of small things proceedeth that which is great.
Why do you exercise? Because you SHOULD? Or because you LOVE it? Which sounds like the more motivating reason? In today’s episode, Taffy shares 4 tips for how you can shift from exercise to “Joyful Movement.” Joyful Movement is moving your body in a way that increases the joy in your life. So if you don’t feel like exercise is doing that for you, you need to listen to this episode!! Taffy’s blog post about 13 lessons learned from running a marathon: https://projectloveyourbody.com/13-things-running-a-marathon-taught-me/ http://3in30podcast.com/marathon/http://3in30podcast.com/marathon/
Pornography is effecting many marriages and families throughout the world. This week Heidi interviews Tony Overbay, a marriage and family therapist that has worked with countless individuals that struggle with pornography addiction. Tony understands the difficulties associated with pornography use and specializes in helping people navigate their way back. There is hope, both for the individual and the spouse. If you or someone you love struggles with a pornography addiction, this episode is for you. If you have ever found it uncomfortable to talk to your children about pornography or simply want to know more about this very real and difficult challenge, please tune in. For more information from Tony Overbay please visit his website, www.tonyoverbay.com You can also find him on Instagram @virtualcouch Facebook: Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist And definitely listen to his podcast The Virtual Couch.
"Love your body and your body will love you." Often, this quote makes sense. We take care of our bodies and they are healthy. But sometimes, these human bodies don't function perfectly. It may not feel like our bodies are loving us. What then? Today, Taffy recaps three interviews she has done with women who know all about having your body not work as planned. From paralysis, to scleroderma, to infertility; these wise women have learned so much, and their wisdom can help us all, no matter our struggle. Also, Taffy shares her experience with miscarriage, and the biggest shift in thinking that came as a result. Finally, Heidi talks about suffering a stroke and shares her most recent thoughts that can change everything we think about physical "challenges". To listen to the full interview with each of these amazing women, click on the links: Abby's interview: https://www.thejoyfulsoulproject.com/posts/019-interview-with-abby-part-1 Breanne's Interview: https://www.thejoyfulsoulproject.com/posts/023-interview-with-breanne-aullman Rachel's Interview: https://www.thejoyfulsoulproject.com/posts/027-interview-with-rachel-nielson
Jody Moore from Better Than Happy is on the podcast this week talking with Heidi about Clean Parenting. Jody is an expert life coach that has worked with thousands of clients teaching them that thoughts create emotions. Cleaning up our thoughts while parenting allows us to be the type of parents we want to be, rather than just reacting to our circumstances. Jody provides some great advice on how to make slight shifts in our approach to our roles as mothers and explains how the results will be so beneficial. You definitely don't want to miss this episode! For more from Jody Moore be sure to check out her website www.jodymoore.com and follow her on Instagram @jodymoorecoaching.
We are all different. It is meant to be that way. But as humans, we struggle a little with this concept. Rather than just owning our uniqueness and knowing we are enough just the way we are, we start looking around in an attempt to validate our own worth. Comparison is the thief of joy, and sadly, many of us women have fallen into this trap. But we don’t have to! We can stop comparing, and find our joy again. In today’s episode, Taffy shares several strategies to stop comparing ourselves to others, and start living more joyfully.
Being a mother can be the most joyful and rewarding experience in this life. However, it can also be the most challenging and difficult. This episode give three keys to find more joy in motherhood. Heidi talks about challenges that are preventing us from feeling joy in motherhood and provides suggestions on how to modify our daily thoughts to find more joy in the parenting journey.
Infertility is a common struggle for women. In fact, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), about 10% of women in the United States have trouble getting pregnant or staying pregnant. If you haven’t experienced infertility, you surely know someone who has. But yet, we don’t talk about it much. This week, guest Rachel Nielsen, host of the 3 in 30 Podcast for Moms opens up about her experience with infertility, treatments, IVF, and adoption. Listen as she and Taffy discuss the challenges and the blessings that have been part of her life because of this trial. Rachel also shares how infertility has affected her relationship with her body, and steps she has taken to improve that important relationship. To hear more from Rachel, search for her podcast, “3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms” in your favorite podcast app, follow her on Instagram @3in30podcast, or visit her website, 3in30podcast.com
Many people don't really understand what exactly a life coach does. Maybe they have never even heard of a life coach. In this episode, Heidi explains the difference between life coaching and traditional therapy and then gives some situations when you might want to hire a life coach. Life coaches are a wonderful resource for anyone that is ready to be the best version of themselves. Take a listen and see if you could benefit from living a more joyful life.
In the world of health and fitness, there are a lot of ideas floating around. Some are useful and motivate us to improve our health and happiness. But others simply aren’t helpful. The problem is, many of these ideas are still widely accepted and sold to all of us each day by the fitness industry and society in general. In today’s episode, Taffy talks about 7 of these ideas and why we need to just retire them.
Money is part of our everyday life. We might love it or hate it, but we all are forced to have a relationship with money. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself how you feel about money? This episode dives into our money mindset and how our thoughts about money affect our results. Money management is typically focused on our actions, but our feelings always drive our actions. Take a look at what you are feeling to truly understand the role of money in your life.
In this episode, Taffy interviews the incredibly talented, funny, and wise Breanne Aullman. Breanne lived a very active lifestyle up until about five years ago, when she was diagnosed with a very rare auto-immune disease called scleroderma. Listen as Breanne shares her story along with what has helped her through this life-changing challenge: gratitude, positivity, laughter, and confidence. For more from Breanne, follow her on instagram @bre11414 or on her blog, www.sclero-what.blogspot.com. You can also check our her cute designs at her website btadesigns.blogspot.com or on instagram @btadesigns.
Gratitude changes everything. When we feel gratitude and appreciation is can improve our health, career and relationship not only with others but with ourselves. A few seconds every day has the potential to complete alter the trajectory of our life if we are only willing to pause for a moment and intentionally feel gratitude. Learn more about gratitude and join Heidi in a challenge that will improve your life.
Do you want to be able to truly help others? Then taking care of yourself is the first step. Eleanor Brown said, "Self care is so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel." Self care is certainly a buzz word right now, and not everybody looks at self care in the same way. Here at The Joyful Soul Project, we believe self-care is simply the pursuit of health, and not just physical health. Taking care of ALL your needs is how you truly become a healthy, happy, and joyful soul. Listen today as Taffy gives 3 concrete ways to start taking better care of YOU!
To celebrate reaching 20 episodes, we decided to do something fun and give you 20 fun facts about each of us. Today on the episode Heidi and Taffy play a little game to help you learn more about the people behind the podcast. Learn some funny, quirky and even embarrassing facts about Taffy and Heidi. We hope you like it.
In Part 2 of my interview with Abby Stephens, Abby talks about how she was able to still have a family and care for her babies despite her paralysis. She teaches us the importance of positivity, faith, and humor, and talks about her ongoing process of learning to accept her body as it is. To learn more about Abby, you can visit her website, abbystephens.net, follow her on Instagram @abspeaks, or like and follow her page Abby Stephens: Motivational Speaker on Facebook.
Today on the podcast, I interview Abby Stephens, who is a mom, professional speaker, humorist, and soon-to-be author. Twenty-two years ago and just a week before her wedding, Abby and her fiance were in a terrible accident that would forever change her life. In Part 1, Abby shares what life was like before the accident, her memories of that day, and what the next few months looked like as she was told she would never walk again. To learn more about Abby, you can visit her website, abbystephens.net, follow her on Instagram @abspeaks, or like and follow her page Abby Stephens: Motivational Speaker on Facebook.
While we can't always control what happens in our life, we can control what we make it mean. It is our thoughts about our circumstances, not the situation itself that determines what makes our experiences positive or negative. We always have the power to choose our thoughts. This episode discusses the power of our thoughts and how we can truly change our thoughts to in turn get the results that we want in our life.
When it comes to your body and health, there are FACTS and then there is DRAMA. Most often, we focus less on the facts and more on all the meaning we are adding to them. So what is really TRUE about your body then? In today’s episode, Taffy discusses this topic, and how important this “TRUTH” is in creating the results in our lives.
Depression is something that we usually only talk about in generalities and statistics. In this episode Heidi shares her life long struggles with depression. It is very real and incredibly vulnerable. By being authentic and sharing her story, Heidi hopes to help other's struggling with similar issues to realize that they are not alone. Listen as Heidi shares her moments of battling suicide, self harm and intense feelings of worthlessness. She will also share ways that have helped her cope with depression.
We are constantly being bombarded with images of what it looks like to be fit and healthy. We create ideas for ourselves of what we SHOULD be doing. But honestly, all of the comparison, guilt, and stress is not helping us create the healthy lifestyle we truly want to live. In today’s episode, Taffy talks about how to get started creating YOUR healthy lifestyle—one that is unique to your life and true to your values.
The average person makes 20,000 decisions every single day. That is incredible. Making decisions is a challenge because we are bombarded with so many options. This choice overload overwhelms our brain and we have a difficult time choosing. We also become paralyzed in our decision making because we are under constant stress. Add in our belief that there is a "perfect" choice and we are stuck in indecision. Indecision is holding you back, it is allowing the outside to create your inside. This episode helps us get unstuck by offering three strategies to make the decision making process easier. Making decisions allows us to live life with intention and become the person we want to be.
This week, Taffy interviews Krystal Cook, an amazing runner with an incredible story. Krystal talks about her experience with battling eating disorders and depression during her teenage and young adult years, and how she was finally able to recover and live a life she loves. She also shares how running has been a huge part of her shift in body image and has helped her maintain a healthy, happy lifestyle. Whether you or someone you love have struggled with eating disorders, or you just love an inspiring story full of “truth nuggets,” this episode is for you!
Why do we help others? There are many benefits of service. When we help other people, we feel better. There have been countless studies that prove when we help someone else it increases our own level of happiness, overall wellness and even improves our physical health. This episode dives into these benefits and talks about why we should help others. This is not a guilt trip for anyone, just some tips on how to live a joyful life. Heidi discusses why we help and then offers some suggestions on how we can serve our fellow man without feeling guilty or inadequate. Heidi refers to several scientific studies. If you are interested in learning more, here are the references. Algoe, S. B., & Haidt, J. (2009). Witnessing excellence in action: the 'other-praising' emotions of elevation, gratitude, and admiration. Journal of Positive Psychology, 4(2), 105-127. Borgonovi, F. (2008). Doing well by doing good. The relationship between formal volunteering and self-reported health and happiness. Social Science & Medicine, 66(11), 2321-2334. Lyubomirsky, S. (2008). The How of Happiness. NY: Penguin Fowler, J. H., & Christakis, N. A. (2010). Cooperative behavior cascades in human social networks. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, 107(12), 5334-5338. Lyubomirsky, S., King, L. & Diener, E. (2005). The Benefits of Frequent Positive Affect: Does Happiness Lead to Success? Psychological Bulletin, 131, 803-855 Lyubomirsky, S, Sheldon, K M, & Schkade, D. (2005). Pursuing happiness: The architecture of sustainable change. Review of General Psychology, 9(2), 111 - 131 Dunn, E.W., Aknin,L.B. & Norton,M.I. (2008) Spending money on others promotes happiness. Science, 319, 1687 - 1688. Aknin, LB., Barrington-Leigh, C., Dunn, E.W.,Helliwell, J.F., Biswas-Diener, R., Kemeze,I., Nyende, P., Ashton- Janes, C.E. & Norton, M.I. (2010) Prosocial Spending and Well-Being: Cross-Cultural Evidence for a Psychological Universal. NBER Working Paper No. 16415 Luks, A. A. (1988). Helper's high. Psychology Today, 22(10), 39. Moll, J., Krueger, F., Zahn, R., Pardini, M., de Oliveira-Souza, R., & Grafman, J. (2006). Human fronto-mesolimbic networks guide decisions about charitable donation. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, 103(42), 15623-15628. Fehr, E., & Camerer, C. F. (2007). Social neuroeconomics: the neural circuitry of social preferences. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 11(10), 419-427
In today’s episode, Taffy talks about five beliefs she has developed from what she has learned about the body from the scriptures and teachings of the LDS church. Regardless of your religious beliefs, if you want additional understanding about the body, and more motivation to love, respect, and care for it, this episode is for you!
There is so much heartbreak and sorrow in the world. We each are asked to face our own set of difficult circumstances. This week, Heidi offers some suggestions on how to find joy even in the most difficult of times. She takes lessons learned from the book, Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl, and applies them into our life. If you have ever felt disappointment, despair or doubt, then this is the episode for you.
Today Taffy dives into the Headwinds/Tailwinds phenomenon: what it is, how it hurts us, and how an awareness of it can lead to a more grateful heart and even better health. Also, she talks a little about her experience running the Boston Marathon last week, specifically some of the things that helped her get there and what got her to the finish line.
Is your life crazy busy? Do you run from one thing to another frantically trying to get through the day, only to get up and do it all again? Our world thrives on busy. We equate busy with success and value. If we are busy then we are productive and worthy. That is the busy trap, but it is a lie. Brene Brown said: "Crazy-busy is a great armor, it's a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we're feeling and what we really need can't catch up with us.” This episode talks about how to avoid the busy trap and find more happiness in our lives. If you have ever felt frustration with your hectic schedule, you don't want to miss this one!
Love your body, and your body will love you. But what if you don’t love your body? What if, most days, you don’t even like it? Well, you are not alone! Many women suffer from Negative Body Obsession, or negative thoughts about their bodies on a consistent basis. On this episode, Taffy talks about this epidemic of Negative Body Obsession, how it is hurting us, and what we can do to heal ourselves from its effects.
Emotional intelligence is a person's ability to recognize and understand their own emotions as well as the emotions of others. There are three main components; self-awareness, self-management and social-awareness. This episode discusses each of these components and how they apply to real life. Heidi talks about how her lack of emotional intelligence influenced her teenage years when she moved high schools. The episode concludes with important lessons Heidi has learned about emotional intelligence. No matter what aspect of your life you want to improve, understanding emotional intelligence will definitely increase your success.
This episode features Taffy Micheli, the other half of The Joyful Soul Project. Taffy is a fitness expert who is currently training for the Boston Marathon. She shares the key to better health and teaches how we can all become a healthier version of ourselves. Taffy is absolutely amazing! You will love her. If you have ever wanted to lose weight, eat healthier or improve how you feel about your body, then listen to this episode!
This week on the podcast I talk about wholehearted living. This term comes from Brenè Brown's book, The Gifts of Imperfection. Wholehearted living requires three things; courage, compassion and connection. Courage is not always some huge act of heroism. Courage in our day to day lives is very ordinary. It is willing to be imperfect. It is sharing our story. Courage is being who are rather than who we think we are suppose to be. Compassion is loving ourselves and others, even when we/they are not perfect. Compassion is choosing empathy, forgiveness and kindness. We all need connection. Connection is the key to a happy life. Meaningful connection comes when we feel heard, seen and valued. But connecting must go both ways, we must be the giver and the receiver. We can all use a little more courage, compassion and connection. The seemingly small choices we make each day can move us towards wholehearted living.
This episode I interview Trevor Ragan, the founder of Train Ugly. Trevor has become an expert on understanding how humans learn. Together we discuss growth mindset, embracing fear and celebrating mistakes. Becoming a great learner will improve every aspect of your life. If you can learn, you are unstoppable. For more information on Trevor and Train Ugly visit their website www.trainugly.com. Let's do this.